Let it Go

Today was the day from hell. Arrived home from empire exhausted

Tossed Pizza Pizza on the table for the kids and went straight to bed

I never do that – come home from work and go to bed. Feel guilty for not spending time with them but it’s better I go to bed than turn into a psycho screaming mother

Three boys are sleeping on living room sofa this week as we’re remodelling and painting their bedroom. They’re down there talking and won’t sleep. Just wish I could turn them off

Every time I get stressed like that I sing that song Let it Go in my head.

OCD husband

I’m certain my husband is “shiny”.  In other words I’m sure he has ADHD.  Or something similar.  I also think he has OCD and a touch of narcissism.

He’s been applying for a part time job.  I don’t think he needs it but in his mind he needs to be busy all the time. So he applied for a great part-time (weekend) job and they asked for a copy of his college diploma.  The diploma is in Spanish and they want an English translation.  They said he could do this himself and not have to get a certified translator to do the job.

He asked me to help with the set up of the format for the translation on the computer and he would do the translating.  If you’ve never had to have a document translated, you have to set up the document exactly the way the original is set up.  With this particular diploma, there are all kinds of tables and charts.

He said he needed it done asap so I devoted my lunch hour at work yesterday to set it up for him.   Then I sent it to him by email and he called me to say he already did it that morning with the help of a co-worker and submitted it to the company he is applying to.

I said thanks so much for letting me know and letting me waste my spare time.

Seriously I’m pissed.

I spent all that time doing it for him and he didn’t even have the decency to tell me he had already done it.  Yes, he apologized but he doesn’t see it as a big deal. Well of course when you’re selfish and inconsiderate, you wouldn’t see it as a big deal.

Now my husband obsesses about stuff.  Lot’s of stuff that is way beyond his control.  He obsesses about things like why his friends on Facebook don’t send him messages or write on his wall.  I asked do you send them messages and write on their walls?  He said no.  I said that ‘s why they aren’t doing it to you.  He obsesses about a snowblower that our friend has in storage that was promised to him. He doesn’t understand why it’s been three weeks and they still haven’t given it to him.  He obsesses about his friend who owns his own business and my husband does side jobs for him.  He friend never ever pays him yet my husband continues to work for free.  He doesn’t understand why his friend won’t pay.  I said why should he pay when you work for free?

So for the past week, all he can think about is whether or not he will get this job.  And he will obsess about this 24 hours a day until he gets the call.   It isn’t healthy and I told him that when he thinks this way, it isn’t healthy.  Yet he thinks I’m not being supportive because I’m not obsessing about it with him.

Truthfully, I could care less whether he gets this job.

Hello

Hello,

This isn’t my first blog. It’s probably my tenth. I have s habit of starting blogs with the intention of keeping them up but I never do.  Let’s see how long this one lasts

I’m a forty-something mom of five and  I work full time. My life is so hectic.

To add to the chaos, I was diagnosed with ADHD about 8 years ago. My twin boys have it too.   I’m convinced my husband also has it but he would never admit that